As a Rabbi I was asked by the bride to officiate at her affirmation of vows almost a year ago. She had already been married in a civil ceremony and was living with her now-husband in Long Island. They took it upon themselves to get married and be independent of family, but were ready now for a larger, more public ceremony. The bride had been raised in a Jewish home and was looking to get in touch with her roots. The groom (shown here) was of Christian background. Indeed, the other officiant was a minister who had a parish in Long Island.
The couple came to my apartment a few times, and we spoke about the ceremony and Judaism. I ended up giving her a menorah and Kiddish cup to help them celebrate the holidays. They were most appreciative and were counting the days to the big event. I arrived and met with the other officiant. He had done very few interfaith ceremonies and was very warm and accepting of my taking the lead. He was going to do a reading, blessing of the rings, and a benediction. But his manner was open, and I felt that we were of the same mind and had much commonality of purpose and spirit. Indeed, as the ceremony continued he and I were helping one another and people later remarked it seemed as if we had worked together before
As a rabbi that frequently co-officiates, this wedding embodied the best of both faiths with a minister who was reaching out to make all involved feel comfortable. He didn’t view this as a competition but as a sign of love and commitment to the couple and to me. That is how I felt it was truly magical.
Peace and Blessings to you
Rabbi Gloria